It’s coming! Thursday, October 9th is the first episode of The Stillhouse Reflections—an eight-episode, quarterly podcast where we talk radical freedom, truth, healing, spirituality, and philosophy.
This season, the podcast starts with a deep dive into The Truth About Responsibility. I explore responsibility and how it’s meant to play out in our lives, as well as how it’s used as a trap to keep you stuck in relationships and roles you’ve outgrown.
From there, I talk about approval and how needing approval from other people keeps you stuck. I use one of my favourite examples to demonstrate this idea—skydiving. If you ask people who are afraid of skydiving whether you should do it or not, they will inevitably say no. That’s why it’s important, when you go looking for approval or permission, to recognize when other people are projecting their fear. It doesn’t mean they don’t have good ideas or points; it simply means they are not offering you a fully objective opinion. If you keep that in mind, then even when they try to stop you, you can allow yourself to move forward anyway, knowing that their projected fear is not yours.
Next, I explored the difference between belonging and acceptance. Belonging comes from a societal narrative and sometimes even an internal wound that says we need to fit in. Acceptance is a more healed state of allowing things to be as they are, where people are accepted for who they are without the need to fit into boxes that make others comfortable.
Then I turned to human rules—the rules that add pain to our lives. Human rules are created through morality, religion, judgment, and ideas around “supposed to” and “should.” The experience may offer pain, but human rules and stories add pain beyond the experience itself. Allowing natural truth would let the experience be as it is, without the addition of any story or human rule.
Plateaus are common in healing. We get to a place in the journey where we’re asked to pause or slow down. Many people take this as a sign that something is wrong, when really it’s just life asking you to stop and rest. The sixth episode talks about stillness and how it can be helpful. Being busy 24/7 is not healthy. The societal expectation of continual momentum causes people to forget about themselves entirely.
Our identity falls outside of the roles that we play in life. The seventh episode explores the reason why identity often causes pain. We use our roles as part of who we are. We decide what being good at these things means, and then when people don’t live up to the high expectations society has for those roles, we interpret that as the person being bad instead of the expectation being too high or the role not being suitable for them.
In the final episode, I talk about radical freedom and what it would mean for society, for individuals, and for how our world is shaped. I share why morality and religion need to be taken out of politics, and how freeing people to live the lives they want would create a happy, healthy society. The collapse of democracy is imminent. Without healing, the people in the democracy will go down with the proverbial ship.
If these topics interest you, make sure you subscribe and tune in each week starting Thursday, October 9th.
See you there!
Love to all.
Della