True and right aren’t the same.
They might coexist, but they don’t always agree.
From a human standpoint, truth and rightness are both subjective. They are open to interpretation, different for everybody, and subject to change given the right set of circumstances.
But if we zoom out from the human lens for a moment, there is a higher truth—a universal truth. And no, I don’t mean religion. Universal truth offers no exclusion. There is no sense of right and wrong. Things just are as they are. If something wasn’t meant to exist, it wouldn’t exist.
The Universe is not based on human ideas of right and wrong, or what should or should not be allowed. The Universe is based on the idea that everything exists equally and neutrally.
What does that mean for all of the human rules we’ve created over time?
They are made up. They are not truth, nor are they “right.” They are simply a reflection of how human beings have traditionally seen the world.
My journey of healing led me to question what was true in my own life. That became the litmus test I used to determine whether my perception of my own experience was based in truth or rooted in pain. I came to one fundamental conclusion:
The truth is not painful.
When I was able to dig down and find the truth of my experience, it removed all resentment, anger, bitterness, pain, and any lingering blame, shame, guilt, or victimization I may have felt. The truth revealed itself as self-responsibility.
I may not have control over what happens to me or over my external circumstances, but I have full control over how I perceive, think, feel, and respond to every experience I have.
I am the common denominator in my own life. I impact my life far more than I was ever led to believe.
Society tends to teach us that our experiences are the fault of other people or things. That my reaction to you is your fault. But that lie disempowers you. It leaves you at the mercy of your experience—something you don’t have control over.
That leads you into spending a lot of time trying to control your external world. It creates stress, anxiety, bitterness, pain, and resentment. If only all of these would change, I could feel better.
What if, through truth, the external world didn’t need to change for you to feel better?
Human rules have taught you how to perceive the world in a way that’s painful to you. The rules make you believe there is something wrong, or something you need to fix. They make you believe your role is to fix the outside world. But your real task is to understand your place in your own life—to shift your perception away from the pain and look for truth.
What you’re ultimately looking for is what’s yours, and what’s not. What part of your experience came from the pain of other people? What did you do with that within yourself?
“As within, so without.” — Hermetic principle, attributed to Hermes Trismegistus
Every time you have an experience outside of you, the energy is recreated within you somewhere. Your role in your life is to recognize that—and then make conscious choices about what to do with what’s created on the inside, not to worry about what’s happening on the outside.
If every time you had an experience you looked inward instead of outward, your life would naturally change. How you feel would naturally shift. Your perception would naturally soften.
I’m not here to tell you what the truth of your personal experience is. What I know is that the truth will not be painful to you. It will not have any sense of what should or should not have happened. The truth will remove constructs like right and wrong or good and bad. The truth will shift your perception and give you a sense of self-responsibility and self-control back. The truth will offer you freedom from the human rules that have trapped you for most of your life.
The truth is radical freedom that can only come through releasing pain and judgment.
The truth will hurt—but only if you judge it.
The truth is buried far below the pain society has both manufactured and lived within for many years. It is only when we are willing to look past those things that we can begin to see the deeper truth of what human beings have created so far.
Love to all.
Della