Politics is the performance of control.
Utopianism is the idealization of control.
Self-help is the internalization of control.
These are the gateways to balance.
We all get pulled into politics at some point — fighting over whose rights matter most, what’s right and what’s wrong, and who deserves to be supported or condemned.
When we grow tired of the pain — and of the politics of pain — we start to imagine a utopia, a place where nothing bad ever happens. Religion calls it heaven: no suffering, no stress, no daily grind. Only love and peace.
But healing teaches us something else. That place doesn’t exist somewhere else. We create both heaven and hell right here, through how we perceive and respond to the world around us.
Self-help is often where the path truly begins.
It’s where we learn to put ourselves back on our own list — where we start to untangle who we are from who the world told us to be.
It’s how we start seeing our pain, and begin to heal it.
Systemic release is the absence of control — and the re-emergence of balance.
It’s what happens when we step beyond politics, utopianism, and self-help.
It’s the moment we realize that each of those earlier forms are still built on control. They all depend on limiting choice so others can only act in ways we find acceptable.
Whether it’s internal self-control through morality, or external control through politics and religion, the result is the same: the endless attempt to manage the world around us.
So what does it look like to be in the world but not of it?
That’s systemic release — the capacity to find balance in a world that doesn’t offer it, without needing to control anything.
It’s not apathy, because care doesn’t mean conformity.
It’s not selfish, because care doesn’t mean erasing yourself.
It’s not chaos, because balance isn’t ours to manufacture.
The chaos, apathy, and selfishness we see are symptoms of trying to control what was never ours to control.
When we stop fighting for balance, it returns on its own.
Systemic release isn’t the end of structure; it’s the remembering that structure belongs to life itself.
It’s the point where the world stops needing to heal and simply begins to breathe freely again.
Systemic release asks us to trust ourselves to balance — even when there is no structure left to prevent its opposite.
Love to all,
Della