Pain Isn't Wrong

I’ve been writing about how morality gets tangled up with truth, and how that confusion shows up in our lives. One of the ways we get stuck is by treating pain as if it’s a moral failure.

We’ve built a society where keeping everyone comfortable is expected because we’ve invested enormous energy into avoiding pain. Not understanding it. Not healing it. Not accepting it. Just avoiding, denying, and treating it like a problem to solve.

But pain isn’t wrong—and it isn’t bad either. It just isn’t true. Pain often shows up when we’re resisting truth. It’s the pressure between what we know deep down and what we’re still trying to avoid. In that sense, pain is useful but only when we stop mistaking it for a sign that we’ve done something wrong.

Pain is a natural part of our experience as human beings. It can be a tool when not objectified into something that is wrong or bad. By allowing pain to exist in our experience—by no longer protecting others from pain—we can create a society that honors the truth of the people within it. That truth is hidden in the pain that still needs to be healed.

Love to all.

Della